i have "betrayed her" (my mum)
i was caught lieing.
im "no longer the daughter she loved" and i am "a bitch, a fucking bitch" etc etc.
oh, and im on a budget because i have to pay her back 110£ for money she spent on my for birthday/crimbo.
oh and i dont have a mobile phone because she smashed it up on saturday.
im not even making it up!!

it sucks.

all good advice, i will take it to heart.
the thing is, im really not a really bad teenager. as it goes i do well enough at school. im not a drinker a druggy a ho or such like and mainly i stick around to be a part of her family (i have younger brothers)
she doesnt want me to grow up.
i guess i am sorry, but i wouldnt lie if she wasnt so controlling.
and why ios she controlling? becasue she (has admitted she's jelous) becasue she's a single parent with shit prospects and apparently this isnt fair that i should have a life if she cant. although no ones stopping her except herself.
she's messed up because of the way her mum treated her (similar to how she treats me) and she ran away from home at 19. but the thing is, with her she had older brothers around and her dad and if things got heavy they'd be there.
with me its literally just me to cope with it.

Sounds just like my mother - you're not my secret sister are you?

My Mum:
- When I was nine she was standing at the door screaming at me about something, she then burst into tears and said "and then you'll move out and we'll never hear from you again"

- Ignored me, made my life hell, glared at me whenever I spoke to everyone for three days JUST because I wouldn't share a room with my brother, me being 15 and him being 13...AND there being a spare room.

- Beat me up for being offered a position on a tour and eating some mozarella and avacado...despite the fact that my brother ate the majority of it, (he's spoilt and perfect so it doesn't matter), and then I HAD TO APOLOGISE to her for HER making me upset...don't get me started, I still have nightmares.

- Used to sit next to me in the car, sniff and screw her face up, when I asked what was wrong she said "Oh..nothing...nothing" and then she'd do it again.

I think I'd better stop here, you're probably relieved to know I don't want to go on about it anymore.

Not reffering to Philip Larkins Poem, but the bit Lanky said before that seems right enough, you'll both have to do some crying, maybe you will also have to do a bit of tit for tat exchange over misdomaeners you have done to ech other....I think it would be very difficult to swallow a whole list of faults in one go, you would have to take turns to enable you to both see each others points of views.
Remember if you take the lead too much, this may make her feel bad about her 'mothering' point out that neither of you have got 'good examples/experiance' of how these things are meant to work out.

Also be wary about letting her know you aired your woes on the internet , I know its anonymous and we don't know her from 'Adam' but best be careful.

You see Frog...we could be sisters!
Anyway, I hope you work everything out with her. I would suggest that you are civil to her and polite, but if she's anything like mine she'll have dramatics and think you don't care.

Anyone's mother has to be better than the woman with the kid I saw on the bus last night.

(Woman to her small child)
"Stop doing that! Stop fucking doing that! You wanna get HIV? What if that had AIDS on it? You put your hand in your mouth like some fucking one year old, your fucking three, do you wanna get AIDS?"
Kid (in a very small voice, probably wondering what AIDS was): No.
"When we get 'ome your goin' to bed. Fuckin' putting your hands in your mouth"