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by marilyninthesky

being the age you are?? I have to dash off to the doctors but I've been thinking lately how scared I am of getting older. It's nearly Christmas and I swear every year it comes around quicker and quicker. I can't keep up with life, and I don't understand how Ive reached 23 without being proud of any achievements (apart from a degree which hasno relevance to my current career). When I was 16 I always thought I'd have a great career and first child on my way by the age of 25. Anyway, are you comfortable with your age?

marilyninthesky | 16 Nov '07, 10:56 | Send note | Report this | Reply

yes

i'm 25 in just under 3 weeks or something, but it's not really an issue to me, as long as i'm having fun i don't really care too much about my future, as long as i don't screw everything up for myself.

if i was still like this at 30 i would be more worried, but i'm quite happy to just ride the fun times until there is a housing crash to leap onto!


HA

yr old


you know i get id'd more than you

ergo, no i'm not!!! :P


yeah but i want to have a slightly better job!

with more money and more holiday, so i can afford to get more absynthe and more other eastern european drinks and the like!


oh yeah cool

and dont foget buying me diamonds!*

*novelty hairbands


Completely

I have come to love my youthful vitality and appearance, whilst appreciating that all the stuff I want to do now won't happen unless I start bucking up my ideas and getting off my arse and growing up a bit. Its good. I still have potential. I can put up with another year of not being able to do anything if it means i get to be like this.


^

the idea that you suddenly get to an age where you start fulfilling your potential is ridiculous.
in all liklyhood you'll still be in the same mental state in ten years time.


But there are plenty of things

you can't do until you are 18, if thats what he meant...


yeah maybe

thats not how i read it.
i saw it more like, 'i'm only 16, in a couple of years i will start putting my potential to good use.'
and i don't think it usually happens like that


Pretty much

I wasn't the sort of kid who really had much of an idea of what I'd be doing at 22. I've just finished uni, am applying for a PGCE and am working full time outside of academic holidays for the first time. On the other hand I'm kinda out in the sticks until next June, so sometimes feel like I'm not having the exciting lifestyle someone my age should have.

But then I don't know. Someone asked me if I felt 22 the other day (which I'm aware is still young) and I couldn't answer because I didn't have a clue what they meant.


Where are you applying?

I'm applying at the moment for a September in London. 11-18 yr olds.

I recently celebrated the 4the aniversary of my 20th birthday. :)


Goldsmiths and East London

to do Upper Primary. Just waiting on a reference and I'm good to go!

What places have you applied for?


I'm doing R.S

so am limited to East London, Kings and UCL. This weekend's going to be my 'writng my personal statement' time. This has been preceded by 2 months of 'thinking about my personal statement' time.

I'm confident I'll get a place though; I guess the only sticking point is a lack of experience. This I am hoping to overcome this is copious amounts of enthusiasm and passion (and the hope that other applicants will be equally as underprepared in the work experience department as I am)


A lack of work experience

was my problem too. Lucklily I've sorted a placement for June so hopefully the "Look, I will have experience by the time the course starts!" line will work.

UCL and Kings offer a course? Nowt on their website about Primary courses when I checked so, not being anywhere near good enough for the Institute, my options are limited! Good luck!


Good luck to you too.

there's areally comprehensive search facility on the GTTR wensite:

http://www.gttr.ac.uk/cgi-bin/hsrun.hse/General/gttr_search/gttr_search.hjx;start=gttr_search.HsForm.run

Maybe Kings and UCL don't do primary? Anyway worth a search if you haven't already, you never know - you might find an even better course!


I'm not having the exciting lifestyle someone my age should have

Me neither!

East Anglia is awful. AWFUL. (not that yr necessarily in East Anglia, I am though, and I resent it heavily.) I need a way out. Masters in London next year, I'm thinking.


i'm 24½

things are finally starting to go the way i want. it's nice!


also

i really like being the age i am. there's no way i want to be 18 again, it was was horrendous enough the first time.


I'm 23 too

and I think I've had an exciting enough life. I wish I was travelled a bit more but I know I've done more than a lot of my friends who are happy in the confines of Dublin. When I was young I thought I'd be married by now.


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hmm..life moves in stages which are quite unrelated to age..18-23 was a nightmare for me and i feel a lot younger now at 29 than i did at 19, i just dont have as much hair.

i think people feel in a hurry to be old by 30 and then realise they have the rest of their lives to live.


Totally.

No point in fighting it... just enjoy it. I'm happy to be out of my twenties... which was a very confusing decade, that's for sure. I know who I am, what I want, and where I want to be now. Learnt from the mistakes. I know more about what I want...

Society has changed so much... as a result, I think the lines between 'age' have also blurred. I don't consider someone of say, 48, to be old (I have said this before but have friends who are in their 40s who are far more rock and roll than the average 22 year old)...

I think it depends on who you are as an individual.

That's my two bob! Bye!


hehehe Thanks Rose

I love the way thaat you made the threshold at 48 (just one year older than me) so I can shelter under that umbrella

:) x


Well

I am still fairly young (22) so I'm not overly worried about my career at the moment. I'm having a fun time of things and have no responsibilities at the moment. This will all change next year when my parents throw me out. But I'm happy enough now.

A girlfriend would be nice though.


-

i don't really give a fuck - i'm pretty happy, i have a great girlfriend, i really should have more of a career by now, but hey, i'm not a crack addict and i have a very good understanding of waht i want and need.
i don't fear getting older at all really - i don't think it's 'really' relevant to any great extent


I cant really comment here can I?

apart from observing that you could easily hve a child on the way by age 25.
PS I didnt plan my life it just happened.

I'd have felt a bit dishonest 'planning my life' or ensuring it ran according to plan


I don't want a child at 25

But when I was 16 I really thought I'd have one by mid-twenties! And yes you can comment- why can't you?


oh dont worry maz

that was just a figure of speach, I WILL comment.....you just have to wait whilst Im typing out the big thingie


I mean its kind of insincere to

stick ridgedly to a plan, because.

a) You dont know or have experiance of loads of things when you make a plan.
b) To stick to a plan irrespective of events that give you a different experiance is to deny the truth of what you bear witness to, or find out.
c) Its a f***ing journey, except that everyone has a different path, because everyone starts off from a slightly different place, advice people give to you is not actually based exactly on where you are now. Glib advice on following a straight well tarmaced and tended path, is bugger all use if you're stuck in the middle of a bog with the fog closing in.

Also If you are in a lovely piece of countryside with the birds singing and lots of flowers, then why on earth would you want to rush on? why shouldnt you linger and just chill out, it would be insane to march on relentlessly along the path


I had a nickname at school

'Alagorical Al'


Actually

I didnt, thats a lie


Not at all.


yeah i think so

im younger than a lot of people, and have achieved more than a lot of people, and i feel like im basically getting better in every way. apart from putting on a bit of weight. but to gush a bit cos im caffeined to fuck, i feel that my music is getting infinitely better and that im going to be well famous pretty soon, and my girlfriend is the best person in the world.


yeah I guess.

I'm 23, which to be honest, doesn't feel that much different from 20 or 21 really. I kind of wish I'd spent more time with my friends, i.e. regular holidays and stuff, but I think we're going to start doing that next year which will be good as nearly all of us have jobs now. I'm not bothered about getting older really, I'm more worried about still being stuck in this craphole, earning very little money, living at home and being an even bigger loser than I am already!


Sort of.

I'm 25, I have a decent job, no 'major' problems. But when I turned that age in June, I did get weirded out ever so slightly. Like a whole new chapter of my life is beginning... Doesn't make a jot of difference to be honest as I don't look my age. Apprently I'm more akin to a 21-22 year old. Which I kind of hate.


Pretty comfortable

I go through bouts of nostalgia now and then, and also bouts of... looking forward to getting older.
I also thought I'd be with child by now, or at least by the time I was 24, as I think that's when my Mum had my eldest sister.
I also thought I would be an artist, or a writer. As it is, i'm in a job I dislike so much it makes my teeth itch.

In conclusion: Largely yes, but sometimes no.


Just an observation about most of you

One thing I do remember is that I never thought about my age or analysed what it was that I 'should have' or 'expected to have' done by any age.

I never took any measure of my life by age it was measured instead by the girlfreinds that I had the freinds I had, the places I went to the bands I was into and 'what I wanted to do next'

ALthough Im not criticising you FOR analysing your age against where you are now. I dont think it is an entirely healthy perspective to encourage.....OK you might not be able to stop doing it completely, but I think you should relegate it (priority wise) untill you are out of your 20's at least.


Well I think alot of the expectations people had

were formed when they were really young and had no real idea how things worked (or didn't work for that matter). At 14 I thought I'd definitely be settled somewhere with a wife/kids/mortgage/9 to 5 just because it seemed so far away

I think if you have various aspirations then you do have to have some idea of when you will achieve them, but obviously a rigid schedule is doomed to fail


I mean

I thought I'd be settled by my mid 20s. Always finish sentences!


i agree

i used to do it a LOT a couple of years ago and it made me pretty unhappy.
it's not a competition, and there are no real 'standards' to get to, its nonsense to compare yourself with an idealised version of what you 'should' be doing


look the only thing that you have to watch out for is this

a) try to make sure that when and if you do want to settle down that you are employable (can do something to support yourself)
b) try not to judge others too much or criticise them for success/lack of it, that way you wont feel any guilt or sense on non achievement yourself
c) try to learn from everything, try to learn to not carry the shrapnel from any previous relationships into nw ones, learn to understand and forgive what others might have done to you
d) learn not to be a victim (or not to feel like one if happnestantial catasrophe befalls you
e) make sure that you are not 'desperate

These are the things that you should be striving for in your 20's


You forgot

Wear Sunscreen


:D

yes and look after your knees


I like you creakyknees

You always write stuff worth reading


I forgot to

include a most important one though

f) Try to have a f***ng ace time. Go for it. Be nice to yourself (and then others) and wallow in stuff when you find something you like, till it becomes not so good then learn to be able to move on, not to cling on to fading stuff.
g) Dont do stuff that severely restricts your ability to enjoy all other stuff in life (this includes bad addictions, I dont advocate prohibition, just non dependancy)


h) try to avoid the ruts

ride the waves and troughs, you cant always avoid them.

If you do find your listening to the ruts, and its not 'babylons burning' but is in fact 'If your in a rut' then follow their advice 'you gotta get out of it' and stop listening to them because all their other stuff was mediocre


i) never buy used cars

from a lobotomised sales man


You're right,

but I think that it's quite interesting to think about how you thought the world worked when you were a child.
I, for one, want to know if Adam Morris turned out to be a fireman or not.


Yes

It's all come together nicely over the last 18 months or so. The next step is to get a few more qualifications so I can start earning loadsa wonga.


....

i was an uptight and cynical teenage loner. i'm now 32 and mellowed enough to be able to have friends and stuff. so yeah, being this age is much better than being a teenager.

and i spent most of my 20's working my arse off, so i'm kind of set up now and can coast a bit, enjoy the kids, enjoy art, my band and music.

that all looks a bit 'yay me' doesnt it? i'm just basically saying dont fear the reaper.


i'm happy with things right now.

i'm on my gap year, booked a trip to go to America Australia and Hong Kong for early next year as well as climbing Mt. Killimanjaro too. i'm enjoying my job, have a great group of friends around me, an amazing girlfriend and things are looking good for next year followed by Uni in September.