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Gay people holding hands / being affectionate in public

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by ehwhat

how often have I seen this?

not very very often

how many gay people have I known?

lots

Is the world still a backwards bigoted Littlejohn-Swamp?

MAYBE

ehwhat | 16 Nov '07, 14:05 | Send note | Report this | Reply

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I have seen this twice.

First time was years ago and one of the fellas had a post-it note on his back that read "Yes, I'm gay!"

Second time was in Manchester. I forget her name, but she was all about the butch lesbian stereotype. And so was her girlfriend. In fact, all I do remember was the expression of latant hostility towards me plastered all over her face. Racist.

In conclusion: Gay people are hilarious.


you're thinking of

the Scotch


What

whiskey?


Why

do people always spell whisky with an e?


not that often

i feel overprotective if i do

unless its big butch ladies, then i fear for my manhood.


I'm sure I've seen it quite a few times

I'm, ashamed to say I find it quite uncomfortable looking at men kissing. If it ever happens on TV I quite often find my hand covering my face and I change the channel almost involuntarily. It's not like I find it disgusting - it's more like the reaction I have to someone doing something ultra-embarassing and cringeworthy.


My hope is that

as it becomes more common to see people of the same gender being physically affectionate in public, this kind of discomfort factor will evaporate. I think it's just a matter of social conditioning - if I'd grown up seeing it, I wouldnt bat an eyelid now.

I saw Gus Van Sant's "Elephant" recently and I'm embarassed to report that the only scene of the film which made my girlfriend and I exclaim out loud was when the two main protagonists kissed.. as if this was somehow more shocking than seeing innocent kids get blown to bits. The sooner people like me get their attitudes realigned the better.


I saw a couple the other day

they were maybe a little older than me, and it was obvious they werent really gay.
The evidence:
They were goths. It's a known fact that goths have to get more beyond "taking what they can get", as they cant "get" anything.
They had a girl with them (also a goth).
They were outside the cathouse (Silly rock club in glasgow. people who know of this place will understand. Nail in coffin, so to speak)

Though if they were actually gay, best of luck to them. Though I had a friend who's sexuality changed literally 5 or 6 times in one year, as he went through the transition skater->goth->emo->basketballer->graffitti "artist"->"urban" youth


I used to go the the Cathouse unders every week.

There were just as many (if not more) gay couples than straight. This probably has a lot to do with the number of emo/goth kids who think it's cooler to fancy same sex emo/goths. I didn't mind though, was a good excuse to get to kiss lots of girlies.


cathouse

GOD what a place. I lost my friend there once, didn't see her for a good 16 hours. Not going to go back there anytime soon.


it has become

quite usual in Paris...


Please use this sentence

as much as possible.

:-)


it's a possibility

it didn't actually say what I as trying to say...


No, it's right

It just sounds like a great line to blithely answer away any scandalous thing with

'I SAW A COUPLE FISTING IN THE STREET!'
'Actually, it has become quite usual in Paris...'


A COUPLE FISTING IN THE STREET ?

That's so last year...


A Couple fisting in the street?

That's so Paris


a couple fisting in the street?

that's so painful.

i mean i would imagine it to be painful...


You

have to work yourself upto it...


Im not suprised

they would then look like a security threat and need to be tazered. Or shot the good old fashioned way


He drinks a Whiskey drink!

He drinks a Vodka drink!


won't someone

think of the children(I'm just picturing an easily influenced little boy and his reaction to this)


it would be easy to make kids forget them seeing this

just tazer them as soon as they see it


"oh wow

sometimes daddys hold hands with daddys. Now I'll grow up to live in a squat injecting crack cocaine into my toenails with other immoral types who weren't properly shielded from homosexuals and blacks when they were children."


as an easily influenced person

myself, if I saw girls making out VERY frequently when I was a little girl, I would have started humping other little girls.


so

i assume you spent your childhood instead humping little boys?


which would have been hot.

Your point?


are you serious?

seriously, are you serious?
thats the most ridiculous thing i've ever heard you say.
well...maybe joint...


oh...

not srsly?

surely?


all my mates hold hands crossing the road

none of them are gay


so they say


we sleep in beds together all the time

we're not gay...


does anything nice

happen in the night


respect for you drains like sand through fingers

or something through fingers at any rate


I'm betting it always end

in a messy way...


are you

in denial?


I don't think I'd be comfortable holding hands in public

Probably cause more grief than I'd want, and I'm still from that "whatever-i-do-with-who-i-do-it-with is my-fucking-business" school of thought. Wouldn't want it to be a conscious "look at me, i'm a gay, whoohoo" type thing, if you know what I mean.

Always felt comfortable leaning/sleeping on each other on buses and trains (etc) though, think its quite cute.

That all made sense in my head, time to read it back...


the last time i saw it

it was on a packed tube at about 6pm on a saturday evening and i was pressed right up against two girls who looked about 18 and were being rather friendly.

good times.


sounds like a porn movie

GUNTRIP'S GUNG BUNG


had a bit of a cold

so couldn't talk properly


that's pretty close to "not at all"

i'll keep on wishin'!


ALERT!

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I see it here all the time

it is quite funny when I have friend visiting, they are always really shocked, mostly in the OK way


YOu have that field full of naked men in Berlin too

In the Tiergarten. I must confess to being rather shocked when I stumbled across that for the first time.


haha

I was talking more about guys holding hands and then cheekly grabbing there bfs arse or staring into each other eyes and playing with hair etc


i see it

and i stare


*cock in hand


I see it lots

I find it hot


degenerate


I see it all the time

but then I live in Brighton.

I have to say that I don't see it very often outside of Brighton.


I've lived in Brighton for two years

Only seen it once or twice. But that was in public. Having to share a house with one, now THAT'S a whole different pair of sleeves (as the French say).


i see it all the time

All the time everywhere....manchester, brighton, london....none in small villages tho


I see it fairly frequently

the two friends I live with are a gay couple, they are never affectionate in public so much so many of our friends don't know they're together.


I've seen quite a few,

but yeah, you're right, no where near as often as straight couples.

One of my friends is really affectionate with his boyfriend all the time in public. Although I think it's actually because they are both a bit insecure and put on a front of being really confident winthin themselves and their relationship.


I've seen plenty girls

walking around holding hands but that could just be friendship rather than them being a couple.

I've seen guys holding hands just about once...they walked past and my brother nodded towards them and said "A couple of woofters." I began to scold him pretty badly for that statement afterwards. (he's not homophobic, just a bit of an arse).


i'm gay

and I don't hold hands b/c I find it physcially uncomfortable. When I dated girls (briefly) i wasn't into holding hands either.

That said, if I loved holding hands I probably wouldn't. Why attract more attention to you at the risk of being yelled at or worse?!?

It sucks, but it's life


I hate that

my friend is gay and has gotten shit from people about it, I don't see why people are so closed minded.


Do you realise

how much money gays cost the NHS every year?


how much?


I'd take a guess...

less than heterosexuals?


I see it in London.

Not really here. I sometimes hold hands with willing straight friends of mine. Sometimes grief is given but I feel embolended by my secret NotActuallyABattyBoy card.


last week

i was in a pub and at the table opposite me were the most demonstrative lesbians i have ever seen.

they weren't even that hot but it was fucking brilliant...


When I was out with a girl

I was sort-of-kinda seeing, I swear I got chatted up by more guys than ever, just because I was kissing, etc a girl. There seems to be very little logic in this, I came to the conclusion straight boys are a bit silly.


bf

I think the train of thought goes like this:

Wow, she's getting off with a chick, like in porn. I bet she's into ALL kinds of filthy porn shit!


i expect that

everyone who has seen me in public with any of my friends thinks they've seen a lesbian couple...


FAO

straight girls: stop holding hands in public, it is confusing and distracting


see my friend and he couldn't believe

that the girls are holding hands,
the girls are holding hands
don't be a fool
it's 1995, the girls are just friends.


Holding hands

is nothing. I was walking down the main shopping street on a Saturday afternoon once, and heard a jingle jangle sound. I thought nothing of it until this man passed me clad entirely in leather, with a hole cut out of pants, and he had bells coming out of his a'hole. I kid you not!


I forgot the keywords

* in Amsterdam.


I actually find it comforting with seeing any public display of affection

whether it be man, woman, child, gay couple, grandparent to grandchild, dogs, shop keepers, whatever... The world feels a somewhat better place when you see people happy and calm. But I'm usually ridiculously affectionate anyway. Yay me.


I see it ALOT

quite a few times a month actually


I SEE IT

AND I LIKE IT BABY, FUCK YEAH


At the Raveonettes this lesbian

couple were really going for it next to me. I politely looked away after a brief glance.


Me too

I'm gay and If I wanna hold hands and be affectionate, i damn well will! :)