So much so that PEOPLE THINK IT'S WEIRD (including me).

do you remember what the look/sound like?

one lives a couple of hundred miles away now but we still talk on MSN every now and then. I wouldn't say we were friends, but we get along well enough.

The other hates me with a burning, and to me and our former mutual friends rather confusing, passion. By the end me and her just had nothing in common and there wasn't really even enough for a friendship left, but I wouldn't say as a rule I don't want to be friends with ex's.

thank god

is also my ex girlfriend. There was a period after the break up which I am pretty ashamed of, in which I genuinely hated her and said the most awful things imaginable about her. But, as the old cliche say, time heals all wounds, and I actually grew up a bit and forgot about my animosities towards her. And our friendship is at the stage now that you would never imagine that we went out in the first place. I can literally tell her anything, and I wouldn't swap her for the world.

There you go feefle, a gushing entry about how wonderful you are. I expect one in return.

Well, I don't see any.

One or two I'd be civil to in the street.

One I MIGHT go for a pint with...

not all of them are friends with me.

which is brilliant. i had fallen out with one of them for years but we've recently made up and it's really lovely. yeah!

I generally avoid all contact for a while after splitting up, its easier, and then try and recover friendship after a while depending on whether its actually worth doing so.

I don't talk to quite a few, and that doesn't bother me in most cases but does quite a lot in the case of one, as I have no idea what she's up to and how she's doing (I'm sure if I had facebook I could probably find this out in an instant, oh well).

One is still a really good friend, which is quite surprising given that she shouldn't really want to speak to me at all.

how many could you easily/happily/want to go for a pint with?

and the other long term one was my best friend for a few years after, but then i moved back home, and we have lost contact, mainly because she wants to stay really close, and for me to visit her loads and stuff, but (as bad as it sounds) don't have enough time to see her and my friends here, and everything else i have going on, so it would be every few months at best, and she says she can't deal with only being a distant friend, and now we haven't talked for almost 3 months, and i really don't know what to do about it. :(

they are utter cunts.

of my notable ex's, the two I don't because I clearly still fancy their asses, the other two I act as a cry-shoulder when they get screwed over, and tell them they're ace and not to worry, despite the fact I know they've got some fairly unattractive issues, bless them.

i'd rather it was none, but then I'd feel unneeded.

There's one that I am not friends with, because he was actually quite nasty. I see him around though, skulking behind bushes at various festivals. We ignore each other.

The other two are nice. I will happily drink beverages with them, and occasionally do. I generally think it's a real pity to completely lose contact with someone if you got on really well with them in the first place, and still like them as people.

One of them really well.

...

and I'm not sure if we're still friends. I still consider her a friend but we haven't spoken in about 2 months and I'm worried that if we do meet up again it'll just be weird and ruin happy memories. It's always very complicated.

with two ex's, one I went out with for 3 1/2 years, the other 2 1/2 years. They'd never met prior to ATP/Dirty 3 which we shared chalet at, it worked so well we're already booked for the Pitchfork one as well as Portishead one. We'll probably just keep booking ahead, they're both in stable long term relationships, one of their bf's makes up the 4th chalet dweller and we'll just assume that stable relationships are a thing of the past for me so no one to throw a strop at me swanning off to festivals with ex's

I have a few I'll say hello to and a couple I'm glad are out of my life after figuring they were manipulative cows. For me to feel like that they need to be guilty of seriously twisted stuff

When you've been hurt, rejected, fucked over or dumped, you really don't want the other person around to remind you... and it's always either you or them that has.

don't really care either. there are loads of ace people in my life :)

Just the one. At the time I felt like she broke my heart, but in retrospect I understand it more now. However, almost immeadiately after something awful happened that we went through together and when you've been through that, that person can never really be out of your life. I don't see her that much any more, but when we do it's always top ace fun, and there's no left over feeling.

Other break ups therefore have puzzled me, as to why they can' all pan out like that.

I'm civil with several exes but not to the extent of being especially good friends with them. The one ex who I could genuinely say is a good mate, and who I lived with for 18 months after we split up, I never really see these days. It's worth saying that the last 3 months of those 18 were fraught at best, though.

I've got four exes I don't speak to, two at my initiation, two at theirs. One of them (my first proper girlfriend) was so depressed I couldn't bear being with her in the end, and her parents told her to dump me because I wasn't rich enough, to which I took huge offence.

Another one I had a close but love/hate relationship with for years after we split up, but one day she had a go at me one too many times and I said something deliberately very offensive so she wouldn't talk to me again.

Another one used me as a rebound shag before giving her mother my phone number and getting her to ring me saying 'please don't contact my daughter again'. That was really hurtful.

And then there's my ex-fiancee, who suddenly cut off all contact with me one day before converting to Islam. We've been in touch very briefly since then and it's been pally enough, but she's disappeared off the radar again and frankly I can't be bothered.

And he is best friends with my current bloke. They even shared a house at Uni together. That wasn't weird at all.

and i don't really see him much. he completely screwed me over on two occasions, cheated on me, lied to me... unfortunately we have a number of mutual friends so i see him from time to time and hear things about what he's doing. after we broke up for the second time he couldn't see me ever without being a prick, as, and i quote, i 'made him feel guilty and like a wanker'. we're quite civil with each other and have facebooked each other a number of times but, whenever i speak to him it's usually about music, and he likes bands that i really hate, in fact, that most people on here would hate, so i end up slagging them off and he gets pissed off. understandably. oh well!

Mine GAVE me a free ticket to Dirty Three ATP so, she's ace quite frankly.

But RL friends? Nah. I used to flirt by email with loads of old flames at once (most of them live in oter countries) but I severed all links when I met my wife.

i don't have any! well, i dunno what ben clark is up to, he was my boyfriend all through infant school. and then tom lacey, he was my boyriend numerous times in junior school. but i lost touch with both of them when i moved. and then there's someone who i went out with for about two weeks on the back end of 2005, who i sometimes speak to but again, i moved wso i don't see him much.