that whilst I have had sex many times I am totally inept at being able to talk about it with any authority. I suppose it is a matter of who the person(s) is(are).

I can imagine it is a perfect situation for some men, but worse for others.

but im a bit of a sap really

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but you have to talk before, and decide where you stand. Basically, to do this two people have to be very honest, upfront, and ironically probably connected to each other in such a way that neither will feel 'rejected' afterwards.

I had a sort of fuck buddy who I cared nowt for.

with one friend i can seperate the sex from being attracted to her, if that makes any sense. i don't want her, because she's not very attractive, but i do want good sex, and sex with her is pretty amazing, but once it's over i don't want to know her for a while and she probably feels the same.

It's another of those threads that's escaped from a Christian forum that discusses life issues...

It's another of those threads that's escaped from a Christian forum that discusses life issues...

but il never ever be able to do it. and i cant relate to the people who do... usually cos their prostitues and whores. and im not down with that. or sleeping around..

fuck eh. crazy for having morals. anyone but me have them anymore? no? thought not.

where i literally go round there, fuck them and go home. We wouldn't have to be boyfriend and girlfriend, but we'd have to at the very least be dating, and by that i mean being in quite regular contact by text/net and going out together to the cinema/pub/club before we go home to get on with it.

for me it would just feel wrong. even if they only wanted sex and nothing else. So yeah i wouldn't say men could do it and not women, because i certainly couldn't and feel happy about it.

As I think in the majority of situations one person wants more, even if they aren't entirely honest (perhaps not even with themselves) about that fact.

Certainly the one time I can remember being in a situation where I cwould've been happy to do it, I also knew the girl involved would've wanted it to be more than sex so in the end I didn't do it 'cos I didn't want to make her (and, less selflessly, my) life unnecessarily complicated.

That said, I think it would be doable. If I was single, they were single and both of us were clear we just wanted the sex then I think it could be done for a short while at least.

I definitely don't think men are better at it than women. Certainly I'm not any good at separating sex & emotions the majority of the time - I think men are just conditioned not to admit that.

and thats about as much authority as I have on the subject

Maybe if I really didn't like the person but found them attractive this would work but I still doubt it.

Fuckbuddy situations never seem to work out, one party will get attached, I think it's incredibly hard to have a purely sexual relationship without feeling something.
But in my experience sex tends to be better within a relationship.

I find I never have any sort of affection for anything, something I'm sticking my cock in or otherwise.

annoying word. I'm angry.

I dunno if you should be trying to separate the two, anyway. This man you're sleeping with sounds like a bit of a wanker, to be honest.

Fuckbuddy type scenarios only work out (based on observation) if you hate the person a little bit. You know, you look at them and think: 'I like sexing you but you have terrible taste in music.' Something like that. And you have to make sure they hate you a little bit too. If anyone's confused then it becomes a really big heartbreaking mess.

but for men, yes

for women, less so

Totally

but I know I'm not very good at doing it, but I certainly pretend to be sometimes

FTW