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If you get abuse from people in the street

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by fucktherave

do you walk on, or do you say something back?

I have a reason for this thread but i am going to bed so will return in the morning with it.

fucktherave | 05 Mar '08, 03:35 | Send note | Report this | Reply

i walk away

briskly...


It

Depends on my mood. Usually I will just move quickly in fear of being attacked but sometimes I will say stuff back. Although maybe not anymore.

At the start of the year me and some chums were walking the fine streets of Barnet when some "Gangsta" kids said towards us "look at those battys man" and I said "yeah, we're gayboys just off for a shag" and they then followed us confronted us and apparently I called them gay. After disputing this I got invied to go around the corner with some of them which I declined. I got punched and they tried to burn my fro beforing telling us to walk on and continued to follow had to hide in a nearby pub and get taken home in the back of a van.

Oh the youth of today :).


They invited you to 'go around the corner with some of them'

Now, I'm no expert, but, If I was a chav yoof who'd just been accused of homosexuality the last thing I'd do is invite a random stranger to follow me around the corner to somewhere quieter!


Baaaaaaaaaaarnet

Which pub? Where was it?


It was

The Old Red Lion. Having lived 5 minutes from there I had never ventured in 16 years until now. S'alright


Ha!

I come from Barnet I got beaten up ENOUGH on the High Street when younger. It's the most violent place in the whole borough, including the estates.

It was MUCH worse though. Ask Meths or EhWhat.

YEP.


^5 to you

Local pride ;). You are right though, I have never been beaten up but been very close many times, always luckily escaped.


it depends really

obviously if its a gang of dodgy looking youths I disappear fairly quickly, otherwise I go mad and go completely mental to get my point across.

so far, i've had one person arrested and one punch me.


As has been said already

it depends on loads of things. Time of day, where I am, what the abuse was, who gave the abuse, who I'm with, level of alcohol (if any) consumed etc etc


...

The 'kids' down my road shout at me and call me a fat bitch and a minging cunt. I shout back on occasion, but it's never going to be more than a stream of fucks and cunts, because if I said anything proper they'd probably kill me or at least set their stupid cuntweiler on me.


I usually go and have a word.

This may not be the best approach, but I'll be buggered if they think they're allowed to intimidate everyone.


Does this happen a lot then?

I don't think I've ever been abused by strangers in the street.


getting abuse on the Tube is worse

I was stuck in the same carriage as two plastic gangsta wankers on the way back from a Fall gig a couple of months ago, and it was an unpleasant experience.

In a situation like that it's hard to keep your trap shut, so I gave them some verbals. Probably not my wisest move - and not something I'd usually do - but I lived to tell the tale. I don't think they could quite believe someone was giving some back.


some fuckwit

headbutted me on the tube once. kindof' awkward when there's a couple of minutes to the next stop.


i smile and go on my way

i ride a fold-up bike and i regularly get laughed at by teenagers as a result of this - it doesn't really bother me.

i don't have a particularly eccentric/individual "look" so i tend to get ignored when i'm just walking about normally, or when i'm in cambridge (where fold-up bikes are ten-a-penny).


if im a bit pissed

im usually abit more inclined to mouth something back or confront people.

but when im sober a long, silent over the top stare suffices or i just ignore them.

i find it baffling that people think someone with big/long blonde hair is 'weirder' than someone who is morbidly obese or something.


i was once walking past a rather rough snooker hall in Glasgow

there was a bunch of neds outside smoking and i was walking past with my friend.. they made some lewd remark about her tits or something and i turned round and said in a really gay voice "thanks boys.." and made the call me sign with my hands..... they didnt find it very funny


:)


It depends on the circumstances.....

time of day, whether the people concerned (or indeed me personally) have been drinking, what was said and from a tactical perspective numbers.

I got called a spastic in a few years ago by a guy who seemed to object to me having a stammer. I walked away without reacting and sat down for a while, then I started thinking about all of the times in my life that random strangers had acted like a prick.

The iPod playlist at the time was very much slanted in favour of straighedge hardcore, I listened to a few songs from Champion's 'Promises Kept' and feeling rather more fired up than before walked outside into the terrace area and walked over to the table where he was sitting.

I told him in the very clearest of speech that I couldn't help the way I spoke, but, it would appear that he had made a conscious decision to be a cunt. I then asked him if he'd like to get up and 'discuss things further', but, with utter predictability he backed down and muttered 'sorry mate, didn't mean any harm'.

So, yeah...I don't understand the mentality and I wouldn't react everytime, but, under the right circumstances I will.
Some day a real rain will come....etc etc


i think its true

that for the most part people who shout stuff do so because they are insecure about themselves and do it to look and feel big, therefore when you give it back a lot of the time they shit it.


I have a friend who is about 5ft 3

and looks like a mini version of Nikki Sixx. He constantly gets abused on the street (and rightly so) by drunk men and other such chavrobates. He never says anything back but always makes a distress call to anyone he knows in the area to come and help him out because he fears a kicking.

I'm happy to help out a friend but i think he's been abusing the system as, last time he called me to come to his aid, i ran all the way to him only to find him sheepishly hiding on a bench around the corner from his abusers who, on closer inspection, turned out to be three 13 year old boys in school uniform.


rightly so?

you fucking cunt


Hehehe


Not sure if you are deliberately

trying to be ironic by directly insulting someone in a thread started by you bemoaning such uncouth behaviour?

Anyway, it was a joke you jumped up little prick.


Yeah its funny how you noticed the irony

yet still took it totally seriously.


Though it's easy for you to say that now

and i'm fairly certain the irony wasn't intended; i'm going to let you off.


Not a problem.

Just be nice from now on.


the reason for this thread as promised...

i was out last night at a club and on the way to get some food someone said something about my hair and shouted something else which i have forgot now, i told them to fuck off or something similar and it resulted in a confrontation and him starting on three of my friends but backing down when i pushed him back.

Its not the insult that bothers me in the slightest, im quite aware i have a stupid haircut but i happen to like it, its just the fact that he thought he could intimidate me.

Walking off makes me feel powerless, and whilst it might be more sensible on some cases, it makes me feel more of an idiot than if i stand up for myself.

And like i said a lot of the people who say stuff to me either do it because they are insecure and want to feel big, or see that im self confident enough to walk around looking a bit different from the majority of people in Norwich and try to take me down a peg. 99% of the time when i respond they back down.


Not sure why this bothers blokes so much

I couldn't give a shit if walking off or not saying anything back makes me feel powerless or look like a pussy. At least I won't get a kicking or worse.


Definitely, definitely not just a bloke thing

Come for a drink with me in Staines on any Wednesday or Friday night and I will show you!


Staines?

I don't like getting hit by women...


Shit

We have a gig in Staines on 20th April. Anything I should know before our singer camps it up/strips naked/molests the front row?


Where in Staines?

I expect you'll be OK


It really ftrustrates me in principle...

I mean, if I walk past someone with a stupid haircut, I'm not going to say something to them.. I just don't understand how these people think they have the right to express such remarks, they'd be furious and shocked if someone like me was to make a similar comment unprovoked to them.


I'd pretty much always have to walk away

Never been in a proper fight before but I'd put money on the fact that I would lose


I think thats fair enough

Its a matter of intuition really. Sometimes it is worth standing up for yourself, other times dented pride should be the least of your worries.

I find it relatively easy to ignore and rise above any abuse given to me. I have a habit of replying or losing it if the abuse is directed at anyone I'm with though


Yeah i mean occasionally its clear that you would be an idiot

to say something back as you will get beaten up, but overall i think sometimes its worth telling them where to go.


This is just it, they only say things to people

who they don't expect to react, so when their intended victim stops, turns around and calls them out they're usually utterly taken aback by it.

Next time you should slip into an Alan Partridge impression and ask them what they think about the pedestrianisation of Norwich city centre before giving them a rather closer look at it.


Yeah ill keep the alan partridge persona in reserve

but yeah people think they do it to get a reaction, and some might but i really think for the most part they do it to feel big and intimidate people, by walking away you are allowing them to acheive that.


Until one day

they try it with someone they really shouldn't do. That person isn't me though.


Occasionally I do say something.

I don't get things said as often to me now, but neds shouting things used to be a daily occurance and if it got to the point where so many different people had made comments in the one day I'd completly lose my temper. I've made myself look like a complete nut before by utterly losing the rag and screaming at wee neds.

Nowadays I usually just give them a 'fuck off' or something to that effect. It's not always wise though.


My streets are a touch stab-happy

for showing backbone.

But I'm tempted to try "I KNOW YOUR MUMS!" next time.


^ This.

There have been so many stabbings around where I stay that replying to ther stupid remarks isn't smart, but sometimes I just can't help myself.

When I'm at work I sometimes like to slightly belittle the wee neddy guys that come in acting all hard in fron of the girl they're wenching. I tell them that they'd better sit nice and behave in the hall or when giving them change say things like 'sixty pennies back' and count it into their hands.


If i get abuse from someone

I read them something from The Little Book of Calm


:D


There's two kinds of people who dole out mindless and unecessary abuse:

Those who have the brain capacity of a worn out duracell, who enjoy the confrontation as it brightens up their dull little lives and those who are insecure in their own looks and wouldn't have the confidence to go out with anything other than a short back and sides, black trousers and a pastelled coloured shirt.

Either way, I'd always take order with these people, no matter what their size. If you stand up to them you don't have to go home and reflect on what you wish you had said and nurse your dented pride. Other than death, whats the worse thing that could happen?


i walk past a biulding site every day

at first i just got a wolf whistle, but they've started shouting things about what i happen to be carrying like "ooooo a wee nazi germany textbook hahaha" (?) and "oooo a coffeeee. i would like a little coffeeee!" which is just strange.


i always give abuse back

once a man kept shouting 'sausage' at me when i walked past him in nandos. in that instance i didnt yell back because i love chicken and didnt want to be asked to leave, so got him kicked out instead


you got someone kicked

out just because they shouted sausage?


^ this.

He may have been ordering his tea?


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Depends how big they are and whether you can get away with it, init?

The last altercation I was in was on the tube. Rush hour + last station of the line = massive crush for escalators, caused by people preferring to queue for the standing side and getting in the way of people who would rather walk.

On this occasion I had pushed, kicked and headbutted my way through the crowd as usual when this guy took offense. I took my headphones off to ask what he said and he took offense again. I informed him that we wouldn't have any issue if he weren't such a fat, lazy fuck. Then I continued up the escalator. He remained where he was, because he was a fat fuck.


...

It's the tube. Even if he had gobbed on me someone else would have been along shortly after to lick it off.


walk on

it's not worth the bother. I can accept there are cunts in the world but would rather not get beaten up or stabbed just to prove it.


i looked a wheelchair bound man in the eye today

for this, i got a torrent of abuse and how if he could stand hed "teach me a lesson". It was both funny and extremely disturbing.

to answer your question, yes keep walking. I do this most of the time anyway. People asking me for fags annoys me alot.