When going to casual parties or events that do not require us to wear something dressy, or when just hanging out, it is quite common to see the other girls wear the same tired blue jeans. Sometimes, it can get boring. In such a crowd, a girl wearing white jeans can become an instant standout among a crowd of girls wearing the blues. Most men get a feeling of pride at seeing their women being such standouts and not being self-conscious about it."
Slowly does it. The idea for having this intimate evening together is for the two of you to just revel in the presence of each other. It would make the two of you remember just why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Hold hands and look at each other in the eye. Do some slow dancing just to enjoy the feel of your partner’s body close to your own.
on the other hand, the time you do spend together is always super special, and you get a perfect excuse to go somewhere else. whereabouts in the US is your lady from?
Romantic Ideas Make a little loving gesture every day for one full year.
Cuddle on the sofa and watch a movie.
Take a bubble bath together.
Walk on the beach in the moonlight.
Put a note in a romance novel saying, "The story is great but our own love story is the best".
Put a single red rose on the seat of your lover's car before they go to work.
Send your lover a virtual postcard at least once a week.
Get every book ever written by your loved one's favorite author.
Get every movie starring your lovers favorite actor.
Keep twenty pounds of your lovers favorite candy on hand.
Take her to see the movie Titanic fifteen times.
Make love to him/her every night until he/she asks you to stop.
Give him/her twelve dozen roses on all their special days.
Compose a list: "101 Reasons Why You're the Greatest" Write each reason on a separate square of paper. Wrap them in a fancy gift box.
Sprinkle perfume on to light bulb. When light is turned on the scent of the perfume will fill the room.
Relax with a glass of white wine.
Listen to a romantic audio tape, fix a cup of hot flavored tea, and light two candles.
Keep a journal of your romantic fantasies. Share it with your soul mate.
Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".
Take a picture of yourself in the most sexy outfit possible. Hide in a secret spot in your house and leave him or her clues on how to get there. Watch the sparks fly!
Put a blindfold on your lover and drive them to a place where you have a blanket, candles, strawberries, sparkling drinks, and a rose. Park the car and take off the blindfold while you read a poem you have written for them.
While your lover is in the shower, or bath, put their bath towel in a hot dryer for a few minutes. Greet them when they get out of the shower with the toasty towel.
Pull the bag out of your lovers breakfast cereal box and slit a small hole in it. Insert a love note. Tape up the bag and return it to the box. What a way to start the day!
Write a list of 50 or more things you like or love about your sweetheart.
Unplug the TV set. Put a note on the screen saying, "Turn Me on Instead".
Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!
Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!
Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".
I have to say, if a guy jumped half of the shit on that list at me, I think he'd have to get dumped. And who the hell has the money to buy twelve DOZEN roses?!
Heh. Good for giggles though.
but this marriage thing - i mean, aside from being ridiculous and stuff, what would that achieve? she still wants to finish university in america, and i'm still here. arfgh
i should point out that you don't actually have to be married to get a visa. i fairly sure you can a visa just for being engaged, and you have have up to two years to actually get married. or something. CHEAT THE SYSTENMMmmm.
so far Mr Starshaped has paid out for:
a working holiday visa (approx £500)
an engagement visa (approx £350)
a marriage visa (approx £350)
and now we're having to apply for an indefinite leave to remain (approx £750). All this and he's not entitled to any benefits over here, despite paying all the same taxes as us.
seriously, I would look hard into transport options to see if it's possible to meet half way or a big nearby city or something.
you have to look at the financial investment (I'm not shallow, like, just a bit poor) and, more importantly, the emotional one. Also, how long would you see this relaytionship lasting if she was in the uk? you might want to consider this against the distance relationship.
they are so so so so hard. I woud disgaree with the common conception that the little time you get together is more precious. It makes it very hard, and all your expectations will be piled up in one weekened - if it goes wrong, you'll be so upset and angry, ESPECIALLY if you've travelled miles to see her.
I dont have much faith in them. Had two, wouldn't ever have one again.
well who knows? after 2 years maybe we WILL get married! HA! i'll be the one laughing then. i'll be all 'In your FACE guntrip!' and the registrar will be all 'sir, a simple "I Do" will suffice', and she'll be all 'Who's Daniel, why are you shouting?' and then i'll run off laughing into the crowd...
halfway would be somewhere off the eastern seaboard of the US. maybe New York could be good...
financially i would be ok. i've got a bit of money saved now, and should have a half-decent job come october or so.
emotionally: well thats tricky isn't it? at the moment i can see the relationship lasting indefinitely, but then on the other hand i know most don't.
i also see what you mean about the little time being more difficult if anything.
anyway, even though i have no experience of these things, it's always going to depend entirely on the circumstances and the people involved. you can get all the advice you like but you're not going to know for sure until you've given it a go.
id been with my guy for ages and were both totally loved up, but he had to go back to melbourne to live at the end of last year, and as much as it was/is still hard, as we are both young and due to commitments i have at the mo and blah blah.. basically we decided to split.
We did about that much for months...aages, but we did know that we'd be living in the same country eventually. It's a bit gashers at times but I think you know deep down inside it's workable or unworkable, depending on the relationship.
There's no point in listening to arbitrary pointers of a miscellaneous nature so don't be disheartened.
Never work
Next!
:(
er oh my god!!!
I was just reading about this on this really RUBBISH website http://www.lovehoroscopesgo.com/long-distance-relationships.shtml
HA! Five Outfits A Guy Wants On His Woman
"3. White jeans.
When going to casual parties or events that do not require us to wear something dressy, or when just hanging out, it is quite common to see the other girls wear the same tired blue jeans. Sometimes, it can get boring. In such a crowd, a girl wearing white jeans can become an instant standout among a crowd of girls wearing the blues. Most men get a feeling of pride at seeing their women being such standouts and not being self-conscious about it."
hee hee
mmmmmm Barry White
Slowly does it. The idea for having this intimate evening together is for the two of you to just revel in the presence of each other. It would make the two of you remember just why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Hold hands and look at each other in the eye. Do some slow dancing just to enjoy the feel of your partner’s body close to your own.
From the 'Kiss Types' section:
"Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors."
THIS IS NEWS
hmm
there's some good tips/advice there. thanks!
Yes they can
Me - U.K. Her - Australia. Emigrating next month and getting married so they can work out! Lots of phone calls!!
difficult and expensive
on the other hand, the time you do spend together is always super special, and you get a perfect excuse to go somewhere else. whereabouts in the US is your lady from?
Springfield!
Missouri. aka Middle Of Fucking Nowhere as far as i'm concerned.
my boyfriend is in Ireland
It's very hard
ewwwwwwwwwwwww no thanks!
Romantic Ideas Make a little loving gesture every day for one full year.
Cuddle on the sofa and watch a movie.
Take a bubble bath together.
Walk on the beach in the moonlight.
Put a note in a romance novel saying, "The story is great but our own love story is the best".
Put a single red rose on the seat of your lover's car before they go to work.
Send your lover a virtual postcard at least once a week.
Get every book ever written by your loved one's favorite author.
Get every movie starring your lovers favorite actor.
Keep twenty pounds of your lovers favorite candy on hand.
Take her to see the movie Titanic fifteen times.
Make love to him/her every night until he/she asks you to stop.
Give him/her twelve dozen roses on all their special days.
Compose a list: "101 Reasons Why You're the Greatest" Write each reason on a separate square of paper. Wrap them in a fancy gift box.
Sprinkle perfume on to light bulb. When light is turned on the scent of the perfume will fill the room.
Relax with a glass of white wine.
Listen to a romantic audio tape, fix a cup of hot flavored tea, and light two candles.
Keep a journal of your romantic fantasies. Share it with your soul mate.
Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".
Take a picture of yourself in the most sexy outfit possible. Hide in a secret spot in your house and leave him or her clues on how to get there. Watch the sparks fly!
Put a blindfold on your lover and drive them to a place where you have a blanket, candles, strawberries, sparkling drinks, and a rose. Park the car and take off the blindfold while you read a poem you have written for them.
While your lover is in the shower, or bath, put their bath towel in a hot dryer for a few minutes. Greet them when they get out of the shower with the toasty towel.
Pull the bag out of your lovers breakfast cereal box and slit a small hole in it. Insert a love note. Tape up the bag and return it to the box. What a way to start the day!
Write a list of 50 or more things you like or love about your sweetheart.
Unplug the TV set. Put a note on the screen saying, "Turn Me on Instead".
Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!
"Make love to him/her every night until he/she asks you to stop"
Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!
Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".
That last one makes me feel physically sick.
I have to say, if a guy jumped half of the shit on that list at me, I think he'd have to get dumped. And who the hell has the money to buy twelve DOZEN roses?!
Heh. Good for giggles though.
Woman! Take my Corn Flakes back to the shop
Some bastard has tampered with the inner bag
what are you meant to do with all the fish
once the gesture has been appreciated?
Take her to see the movie Titanic fifteen times.
More tortue than romantic
starve them, thus indicating that your lover is the fish for you
and that you are a right psycho
20lbs of candy!
Ludicrous. Where would you keep it?
does she drive?
you could go for weekends in st louis or chicago or omaha or something.
alternatively, reconsider that marriage proposal? ;)
yeah she drives
i think she has a Pontiac Firebird, which i gather is pretty badass.
*reconsiders* - nope it still sounds stupid.
Worked for a friend of mine for a couple of years.
He used to see her once a month. But she lived in NY, not The Middle Of Fucking Nowhere.
Can you fly somewhere mutually convenient and more interesting to meet?
Or maybe you should just go through with that marriage after all ;)
yeah i guess we could have holidays together in cool places. that could be fun.
but this marriage thing - i mean, aside from being ridiculous and stuff, what would that achieve? she still wants to finish university in america, and i'm still here. arfgh
ah, fair enough
i should point out that you don't actually have to be married to get a visa. i fairly sure you can a visa just for being engaged, and you have have up to two years to actually get married. or something. CHEAT THE SYSTENMMmmm.
intriguing
...
Moreover, being married is no guarantee of a visa.
Basically: you want to stay in the UK, pay Her Majesty roughly $1000.
Actually more like $2000
an engagement visa
only lasts 6 months and you're not allowed to work during that time.
wow
immigration law is pretty retarded, non?
yup
so far Mr Starshaped has paid out for:
a working holiday visa (approx £500)
an engagement visa (approx £350)
a marriage visa (approx £350)
and now we're having to apply for an indefinite leave to remain (approx £750). All this and he's not entitled to any benefits over here, despite paying all the same taxes as us.
I hope they work
11000 milez
xxx
you're back
<3
yes
for the next 10 minutes.
woo
woo
wooo
wooo
ask me questions...please.
It will make me feel important.
The most challenging question I have had tonight was as follows
Canadian Girl: So England is in Europe?
*Brief pause in which I take a drag on a cigarette and then blow the smoke in her face*
Me: No
ooh so are you in canada then?
where?
whats this 11000 mile romance you speak of? someone you've left behind in oz?
No.........
I'm in Perth. Australia.
she is on DiS. Longer than I've been...
ohhhh
hmm. i don't think i realised you had a DiS romance. am i being stupid or was it hush-hush? who knows...
Pretty much most people
I think
quick question: COME BACK
I will
someday
ah
that was a ponderous, shrug-of-the-shoulders 'who knows?'. but its nice to know that i am being stupid anyway.
This might be cynical of me
but I have no faith in long distance relationships at all.
4k miles
that's a REALLY LONG WAY AWAY, TOBY
seriously, I would look hard into transport options to see if it's possible to meet half way or a big nearby city or something.
you have to look at the financial investment (I'm not shallow, like, just a bit poor) and, more importantly, the emotional one. Also, how long would you see this relaytionship lasting if she was in the uk? you might want to consider this against the distance relationship.
they are so so so so hard. I woud disgaree with the common conception that the little time you get together is more precious. It makes it very hard, and all your expectations will be piled up in one weekened - if it goes wrong, you'll be so upset and angry, ESPECIALLY if you've travelled miles to see her.
I dont have much faith in them. Had two, wouldn't ever have one again.
PM me if you want :) goodluck either way :)
If you can see this lady being a very big part of your future
Then it's worth it. As long as you have something to look forward to i.e moving closer eventually.
Long distance relationships do feel like you're getting the ties of being in a relationship without the rewards at times.
You have to constantly work at it.
well she says she wants to move to London
once she has finished university (2 years). so yeah there is hope at the end of the tunnel and whatnot, but TWO YEARS.
it doesn't sound ideal i have to say...
'cause it's dead easy
for Americans to just move here, of course ;)
way to bring me down daniel
well who knows? after 2 years maybe we WILL get married! HA! i'll be the one laughing then. i'll be all 'In your FACE guntrip!' and the registrar will be all 'sir, a simple "I Do" will suffice', and she'll be all 'Who's Daniel, why are you shouting?' and then i'll run off laughing into the crowd...
<3
YEAH THANKS I KNOW IT IS!
:P
halfway would be somewhere off the eastern seaboard of the US. maybe New York could be good...
financially i would be ok. i've got a bit of money saved now, and should have a half-decent job come october or so.
emotionally: well thats tricky isn't it? at the moment i can see the relationship lasting indefinitely, but then on the other hand i know most don't.
i also see what you mean about the little time being more difficult if anything.
sorry yours didn't work out :( and thanks! :)
They're the stuff of sadness
It's not a relationship. Sorry :(
:(
I am sure they can,
as long as there's an end in sight. To the separate-ness, I mean. Two years you say, eh, it'll fly by!
Everything else you do is inevitably going to fail
So why not?
^ a good philosophy for life in general
anyway, even though i have no experience of these things, it's always going to depend entirely on the circumstances and the people involved. you can get all the advice you like but you're not going to know for sure until you've given it a go.
Most I've done is 300 miles
and no
no.. i dont think so
id been with my guy for ages and were both totally loved up, but he had to go back to melbourne to live at the end of last year, and as much as it was/is still hard, as we are both young and due to commitments i have at the mo and blah blah.. basically we decided to split.
yemon
We did about that much for months...aages, but we did know that we'd be living in the same country eventually. It's a bit gashers at times but I think you know deep down inside it's workable or unworkable, depending on the relationship.
There's no point in listening to arbitrary pointers of a miscellaneous nature so don't be disheartened.
well its nice to hear some positive remarks
as overall everyone seems to be saying it can't work.
i guess we won't know really until it happens... :(
At least the break up will be easy
I mean, you are not going to bump into each other at Tesco's, are you?