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Whats the best way to deal with being blown out by someone who works in the same office as you??

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by codswallop

I asked this girl out that I work with (via e-mail) and I really get the impression that she is not going to reply. This causes a seriously embarrassing situation, because I only work about 20 metres away from her.

What can I do to get out of this situation with as much integrity intact as possible???

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codswallop | 09 Apr '08, 13:39 | Send note | Report this | Reply

why

does the phrase blown out sound so wrong?


You asked via e-mail?

Dude...


^this

have you actually spoken to her or do you just talk to each other via email despite the fact you're about 5metres or so away from her?


Well, it is the year 2008 you know.

Seriously though, do you think that is really bad then?


Do you usually talk to her via e-mail?

I wouldn't say it was the best route to take


Its a bit of a faux pas

but don't worry about it. It will be a little embarassing for a while but its hardly disaster of the century


unless she tells everyone

and the office prick says: "hey, [codswallop's real name], why aren't you asking me out via e-mail? guffaw!"


I agree with DanielKelly.

It would have been better to have told here face to face.

And this is coming from the "bus-stop girl thread guy". :)


To be honest I really didn't think it was an issue at the time

now I can see how ridiculous it was. Its just that open plan offices are crap for private discussions.


Best find out where she lives

Follow her home. Wait in the bushes until she's asleep then bang loudly on her window whilst masturbating furiously.

Guaranteed winner.


one of these days

you're going to have to stop trading on that "bus-stop thread guy", thing...i mean, it hasn't started becoming like the Bluetones banging on about Slight Return for years YET... :P


I only use it because people taunted me about it for ages afterwards.

I've embraced it now, it's my DiS identity. Don't take it away from me. :(


To me

your identity is that picture of you in the skirt. Its ingrained on my retina that! ;P

Also, Slight Return is quite something to bang on about.


I dodn't think anyone noticed the skirt picture, I deleted it.

I have no profile picture now, I don't think it's necessary. ;D


'Told' her?

"You WILL go out with me"?!


Options as follows:

a).Pretend you typed in the wrong email
b).Leave your job

Depends how much you like your job I guess....


c) Shit in her handbag

Tell everyone else it was her who did it.

Her credibility will be SHOT! SHOT.


if you suspect she's going

to say no and you didn't use her name in the body of the email then just tell her you sent it to her by mistake, you're sorry, it's embarassing and can she delete it.


Good idea, but I used her name.

I sent it about 3 hours ago.


Dress up as a bastard

and smash the place up


This also made me have to explain away a guffaw.

I love the idea of dressing up as a bastard.

<man enters Topman>

Man: Hello, I am a top man.
Shop assistant: The sun is bright today.
Man: Tell me, I want to dress up as a bastard. Where?
Shop assistant: If I said I loved you, would you help me put out the fire?

<both run screaming from the shop. whilst on fire.>.


*ravenous


:D


*carnivorous


haha

Dawn "experiences both the pitfalls and power of living the vagina dentata myth".

also: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clara's_Dirty_Little_Secret


^This^

tell someone who is a complete loudmouth, as a secret, that you did the squelchy, and she had crabs. Tell said person that it is DEFFINATELY a secret and not to tell anyone. It could work maybe.


i want to write "kill yourself"

but if you actually did i would feel incredibly bad.


Blame it on one of your

colleagues and their misplaced sense of humour.


FTW!!!

^I hate this but it was necessary on this occasion.


^

even better.


er, no.

What if she brings the 'prank' up with the colleague who supposedly did it?
And they reply with a blank stare?
Yeah?
That'd be pretty embarrassing.


Kill your colleagues

Who's she gonna ask then? The pope?

Probably. But he won't know.


send her a second e-mail going

"WELL?!??!?!?!?!!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!! DON'T LEAVE ME HANGING, BITCH"


I have sent her an e-mail apologising.

Hopefully this should solve the problem!


Seriously though:

"Dear colleague,

Will you go out with me?

Codswallop xxx"

...3 hours later....

"Dear colleague,

Sorry for asking you out!!!

Codswallop xoxo"


EX-OH-EX-OH-EX-OH-EX!

Now I have to listen to Hot Snakes!!!


Like anyone should ever need an excuse

to listen to to Hot Snakes... If I was in power i'd put it on the National Curriculum.


Fraid so, but it has worked in my favour.

We are going to the British Museum tomorrow.

Sometimes being an idiot has its benefits!!


christ

I'm all wrong


SUCCESS

(presumably this is a 'date' and not some sort of er, work field-trip you're all going on.)


This is brilliant

I'll be eagerly waiting updates on Friday.


haha

codswallop is the winnar.


Well,

i


Ha

I pressed reply too soon.

I was just going to say I don't think you've done anything particularly embarrassing. She's being a bit rude by not replying/talking to you.

All you've done is asked her out. True, slightly awkward way of doing it, but I mean, even if she says no, you'll get over it, right?

Also, replying via email to say yes is a bit awkward. Maybe she's just waiting to talk to you in person.

HU NOZE.


^ i agree with this

what's with all the email hate? i don't think it's THAT lame. but then, i'm pretty lame myself.
someone kind-of-sort-of asked me out by email once. granted, i didn't actually want to go out with him... but that was because he was obnoxious and creepy, not because of the email thing.
plus, rejection by email is about a thousand times less awkward and uncomfortable than rejection in real life (i'd imagine so anyway, i've never actually rejected anyone in real life).
NOT THAT I'M SAYING YOU'LL GET REJECTED, OR ANYTHING. as long as you're not obnoxious or creepy :)


I'm sorry

I just chortled.

I'm sure I've done worse, but.... dude.

Dude.


:'(

dude. DUDE


DUDE


Recall the email

then deny it ever happened


Rampage!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g77sLmw-UcY&feature=related

Arrrrggggh, I asked this girl in our office out by email once, she didn't reply so I assumed the answer was no.

Then she kissed me in a club a few months later, but, she was moving away so nothing happened.


Yep, no response at all from her, but,....

she was totally friendly with me, she just didn't mention the email at all.

Then she jumped me in this club...all a bit bizarre, she's a good friend now!


not *that* bizarre

she liked you but wasnt interested, got drunk, saw you, remembered that you liked her and thus probably wouldnt turn her down, and went for it knowing there woulnt be many repercussions cos she was moving away


I don't think a ^this^

has ever been earnt more than that post. Pretty accurate diagnosis I'd say.


If no reply is forthcoming

Swallow pride, say something along the lines of 'well never mind then', she can take it as a compliment. And who cares what she thinks anyway.
In time it will fade, and all will be forgotten.
Basta.


nothings gonna save you man

you cant even say you were drunk.


send her some links to dubious porn

that way the asking her out email won't be so embarassing


It's up to her

If she ignores you after you've sent an email, well it's her problem, not yours. It's not like you've done anything wrong. Just beee niccceee.


Send it again...

with the Importance: High ! thingy on it.


Yeah

that wont seem desperate at all.


yeah

copying in her line manager.


Haha!


when did you ask her out?

How many days has it been? Send it in a round robin e-mail. She'll definitely reply then.


i wonder how many people she's forwarded it to

3 hours is a very long time where the office grapevince is concerned...

:)


I'm going to the British Museum on Saturday with

a girl from work.

It wasn't exactly my idea of a place to go - what's with the British Museum being the 'in' place? We should totes double date...imagine the sexy conversation round the Magna Carta


Ask her directly to her face

why she feels so obviously above your positive attentions towards her that she's not only not going to go out with you, she's not even going to give you the basic human dignity of replying to you either, and then ask her whether that makes her feel superior to you or what, because obviously she isn't because people who treat others with such little respect as she has just treated you with don't deserve peace within themselves or happiness.


^

Don't do this


^

Do this