and role with this. at the end of the day, there's loads of girls, and its always nice to have a friend. BUT if you love her, try soooooo hard to keep her. sorry i'm shite :)

impart any advice on this thing. But if it is not meant to be, it is not meant to be. You don't want to be going out with her if she ins't really into you.

It sucks. It will hurt. You will cry but you will get over it.

if she's not into it any more, there isn't much you can do. but be warned, the friends thing normally doesn't work

Then point to your dick.

Then wait for a beat to pass.

Then start crying.

(That would have worked better as an achewood strip. Sorry. A serious answer will follow)

and see if it can work. if not, you'll need space by the sounds of things.

sorry... These things happen to all of us sometime though.

The best thing you can do is accept it, carry on with your life, and maybe you'll get back together, or more likely, you'll meet someone else. But there's nothing to be gained from beating yourself up about it.

-get really drunk
-keep myself as busy as possible
-look for someone else
and eventually
-attend the next zonino

with an agressive nod accompanied by "oh yeah?!" until she eventually leaves and then shout after her: "You can't fire me! because I ALREADY QUIT!"

I think it's a little unfair to ask you to move directly into friendshippyness. In any case, don't do that. If it's an actual, proper breakup, you need space/distance to see it that way.

"friends who love each other lots" either end up together or just simply can't ever be friends. It sounds like she is trying to get rid of you, but is trying to make it easier for you and trying to break up in a way that wont leaver her with all this guilt hanging over her head. Chances are being friends wont work at all and the whole horrible saga will go on until one of you (you) explodes with rage and jealousy. Don't try and talk her into it, but, seriously, don't accept the whole "let's just be friends" guff. Tell her if she doesn't want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, she doesn't get to keep the best stuff, the friendship and closeness. See how she likes those apples. More often than not, however, the guy will just crumble and do whatever the girl wants in the hope they end up back together, which doesn't ever happen (or does for a little while only for the same rubbish stuff to keep cropping up again and again until one of you - you - explodes) and is deeply horrid and stupid.

I feel sorry for you :(

but if her heart's not in it like has already been said then it wouldn't work struggling through..and friends never works - not from personal experience cos i'm not in contact with/on speaking terms with my exes - but from what i've seen it never seems to turn out for the best.
be brave :)

and staple them to her face.

with hilarious consequences.

You two had kids, right?

American?

Then job done!

:(

you're the best.

seriously.

(i'm feeling very vulnerable if anyone wants to take advantage...)

tell her that whatever happens you'll always love her and cherish her friendship, then ask her whether she still wants to leave you, if she answers 'yes'.........

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fsRN0w5_Dp4&feature=related

but make it clear you can't be friends, it's boyfriend/girlfriend or nothing. If she goes with nothing then cut all ties. Don't avoid seeing her in a social context with mutual friends, be courteous and graceful but very stand offish. If it's meant to be then she'll crumble, realise she's made a mistake and want you back (at which time you will have THE POWER and can assess your feelings and other relationship avenues and decide whether you want her back or not). If she doesn't crumble then she's probably glad to be shot of you, in which case it never would have worked anyway.

The most important thing is not to get drunk and text her in a couple of days/weeks/months/years telling you how much you miss her. This will only cement the thought in her mind that she did the right thing in getting rid of you.

Keep in mind: If it's meant to be it will be.

i am in slightly similar position.

mrs wants divorce after 11years and 2 kids....

i having done anything wrong, just she doesn't want be married (to me) any longer. its not easy to get over it emotionally, but you will. i am about 6months in. we are supposed to be amicable as its a *non-fault* issue-thing.... but financially we are still living together waiting for the paperwork.

its fucking hell at the best of times... but looking forward is what you need to do and move on. dont waste too much time fixating on the principle of being friends.... its not a non starter.... its just highly improbable.... to stay friends with her you will need to accept her new boyfriends......??

good luck....

Stay friends, and make sure you sleep with someone first, shallow and immature but it really helps. also drink a lot. hit all the standard cliches, and there is no reason why you cant drunkenly call her and verbally abuse her, its your right as the dumped.

tell her Mum she's had several secret abortions. Especially if she has.

if she has posed for any 'art' photographs, it is standard operating procedure to stick them all over Facebook and make a series of brightly coloured postcards advertising a variety of specialist adult services.

These should then be distributed around local telephone booths.

Very, very, very, very, very, very much.

if you still want to be with her, you have to make it clear you wont accept all of this. Because otherwise, that makes her realise she can do pretty much what she wants.

It happened to me, i eventually said nah im not doing this, cue her being interested and me not. But it had gone too far by then.

Either that or the stapling balls to faces thing

9/10 fo' sure.

Special thanks go out to reece, Royter and bumlord.