i'm good friends, but just friends, with some members of the opposite sex

one of the friends may think about something more, but that doesnt mean they cant be friends anyway.

But I wouldn't ask a couple of female friends to just come round to my house and chillax or whatever. You can't really do that with girls because they have such short attention spans, and unless you've got alcohol or sexytime waiting for them, they'd rather do other things.

Whereas, I could very well call on my two closest boy friends and say "do you fancy coming up to listen to some hits and get bummed on Pro?".

I've imagined doinking.

I also make it a point not to talk to mingers.

I don't have very many female friends.

I'm very good friends with several members of the opposite sex. It's when you get drunk together you know whether they are you're friend or not. I've one friend who is the most ridiculous flirt when drunk and several times has tried it on with me, I've never obliged. Why? Because she's my friend and I wouldn't want to ruin that. So yeah, you can be just friends with members of the opposite sex.

I had a point but I didn't really get to it.

then again, I'm not drowning in sex and mediocrity like apparently the entire rest of the world is.

of course it is. I have more male friends than female and consider myself very close to many of them. I'm often the only girl in the group if we go out to the pub or for a meal. No weird sexual tension as far as I'm aware!

You can't simply cut off contact with 50% of the population due to physiology. True, it's fairly unusual to find a pair of opposite sex heterosexual friends without their being, or ever have been, feeling from one side or the other, but as a general rule the interested party rationalised and gradually loses their feelings after time. Crushes aren't indefinite. (Are they?)

I'm closer to her than any of my family, in fact - she's one of the few people I know I can confide anything in.

But then this is mainly because she's kind of like the sister I never had. I have a brother, but he's a dick, so I think through her I'm just fulfilling my long-held yearning for a family member I'm close to. And by defining her as essentially family I'm removing any possible sexual tension.

we talk about everything, it's a comfortable friendship. I don't really think of it in a gendered way, they're just people I get on with and there's no attraction. We flirt jovially, and in awkward club situations often assume a role play of girlfriend and boyfriend. so to conclude, it IS possible. Just don't over think it.

She believed me. It was fucking brilliant!

all the really good conversations i have ever had are with boys. i actually can't think of a time when its been me and another girl, apart from my sister, talking about something interesting. Girls are generelly quite boring when they're around eachother.

I don't fancy my friends who are boys and i'm quite certain they don't think of me like that either.

who I'm not sleeping with.

are either in relationships or gay, which makes it not too much of an issue.
but, i dunno, i suppose i sort of know what you mean. i develop crushes on people easily, but then i also get over them quickly if it's clear the feelings are not reciprocated (which is pretty much always the case). and obviously, because of my crippling fear of rejection, it's not like i would ever make it in any way obvious, so they're none the wiser, which saves awkwardness.

pretty much

Put it out there if I'm into a girl.
And then there is a sort of tension, but it's quicker

than waiting around for the friend, who's a girl, that you've fallen for, without telling her, to find someone else, or laugh at you. Or whatever!

:D

Sometimes I wonder where all my logic comes from. Exactly how many people do I have inside me?

Is it OK to assume that you can see through people but they can't see through you? Is deliberately not trying to be manipulative a form of manipulation?

Oh, if girls weren't so fucking gorgeous I'd totally be a recluse.

But, I can't imagine world of warcraft stroking my hair as I cuddle with it on the sofa, listening to shoegaze, after cooking it a delicious 4 course foodfest.

Ciao. x

but I never have trouble just having friendships with boys. From time to time I'll develop a crush on them, but I know it'll be gone in a week, and it's really nothing to be worried about.

I never really understand why people find it so difficult. Are you really so immature/desperate that you can't control yourself and just try to see a friend as a friend? or at least accept that nothing's going to happen? maybe i'm just a closet asexual.

its easy i have two close female friends. Sure i'd have sex with them, but then i'd have sex with most females.

but i'll tell it again because i just got back from work and i'm not tired yet. this will hopefully send me to sleep.

last year i lived with my mum and was unemployed. we used to frequent the local pub and became good friends with the temporary landlord. he was one of those lovely landlords, about 28, chubby and cheerful. we got along like a house on fire, took the piss out of each other etc. so i used to go down during the day and we spent loads of time together. people asked us if stuff was going on and we laughed it off, agreeing we both saw each other in a siblingy way.

anyway, it was his last night (four months or so later) and we all went to a club, then back to the pub for a lock-in. at the pub he took me to one side, grabbed my face and tried to shove his tongue down my throat. i pushed him away and said "what the fuck are you doing?!" and he was all like "oh come on, do you REALLY think i ever saw you as a sister?!" then started laughing and tried to do it again. this made me sick and i ran home, vowing never to trust a man to be my friend again.

so my answer is no. FUCK YOU, MEN!

fat?

I blame my belly on butter, more than beer. Because I stopped drinking and it didn't go.