is there anyone in your life, who just considering the possibilitie of them dying, reduces you to tears?
i just started thinking about a certain person dying and i started crying and thinking how devastated i'd be and how i dont think i could cope and it made my tummy go all funny.
it's odd because the thought of my mummy dying scares and upsets me, and i know that would be like, one of the worst things EVER and i'd be devastated but it doesnt actually make me cry when i think about it.
weird.
anyway, have you ever thought about someone dying and cried?
who was it?
yeah like
my mum and my dad when they both nearly died. cos it was likely. well actually no i didn't like burst into tears but i properly welled up. and also my rat when she was dying. cos i knew she was gonna die and i couldn't fight it. why i still get upset over the fact that my dad will probably still die.
:(
ofcourse you do, its only natural.
i just remembered actually, when my mum and sisters came to my work, when i worked in the newsagents and told me that my nans flat had had a fire, i immediately thought the worse but even as they told me she was ok i burst into tears as it scared me so much, and the fact she could have really upset me.
then when she really did pass away, in hospital (nothing to do with the fire) i guessed just beofre my mum said and got hysterical.
god i miss my oldie :(
there was meant to be a *hug* in there somewhere
xxxxxx
No
but I rather unsympathetically laughed at my girlfriend for doing this over my "death". I don't think she's so moved by the idea any more
is this related to yr other post?
i want to give you a big *hug*.
and yes, when I was 14 and my friend was put in a coma after being hit by a bus. he did end up dying, and i cried again.
no its not actually, but thanks for the hugs :)
sorry about your friend, that must have been pretty traumatic have a hug right back x
my mum
My parents
Graham
not really
everyone's going to die eventually. i think i have a heart made of stone or something.
Yes :(
A good friend who is quite young has been given 12 months to live - he has a brain tumour and it's so bad that they just can't get rid of it.
He texted me to tell me (on 1st April!) and I cried in the ladies at work four times that day. Not a good day. It's not getting any easier either. Unsure how to cope/deal with it. :(
i know exactly how you feel... :(
my ex has just told me a week ago he has less than a month to live... (cancer)...He hasn't told any of his friends either, so i'm the only one who knows.. it's really hard to come to terms with.... and you feel useless because there's nothing you can even do... :(
That's terrible.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Maybe you can find a support group to help you through it.
:(
these are both awful, i'm so sorry to hear about them.
it might be worth seeking some kind of counselling now (if you believe in it), because it's a very hard thing to find a counsellor who works for you, and it could get harder afterwards. when my friend died within a year of being diagnosed with leukemia, i was in no fit state to seek help, and i think getting stuck talking to incompetent psychologists was a real step backwards for my grieving/coping process.
many hugs to both of you. xx
you really are having
a bad day aren't you.
Yes, sort of, more dwelling on the fact that someone I love has actually died and all the things they're not going to be able to share with me and the other members of my family. Life/death is shit sometimes..
No
I didn't cry when my mother actually DID die.
I'm dead inside, or something.
^ this
nor when my dad died. ROCK HARD, ME.
We're totally
going to be in therapy when we hit 40.
i expect so, yeah :D
even when my mum died last year i spent most of the time trying to decide whether i could legitimately call myself an orphan, and if so, how cool that would be.
and you're not dead inside
people deal with situations differently. When my mother died my sister didn't cry at all. She just dealt with it in a different way. It didn't mean she didn't feel anything, I guess the shock and numbness can do that to some people.
On eof my best friends
She killed herself last year. I spoke to her the day before an dshe said she had something to tell me. The next day I was told she was dead and I thought it was a joke. A couple of months back I was in the tube and I saw a girl who looked just like her, to the point that I actually got excited she was in London. I was walking up to say hello and then the realisation dawned on me and I literally burst into tears on the platform.
Though my Mom dying in front of me was the hardest thing for me.
*hug*
:(
that's really sad..
i feel suicide is something so much more difficult to come to terms with (or different), because it's so difficult to understand what they must have been going through.. and with it not being an accident, or a natural death.. My close friend also took her own life last year, and i was completely hysterical for ages.. it took me a while to sort myself out from it. It's always so horrible when they are so young.. she had turned 20 a few weeks before it happened..
It's surreal
It's hard to imagine.
At the funeral her Dad read bits of the letter she left, it was really intense about how for her everyday just waking up was hard, she had to pretend she wanted to live and she just couldn't pretend any more. Her Dad ended by saying that they always respected every decision she ever made and even though it was hard and they wanted to be selfish and have her back, they respected even this decision.
Great here come the tears.
*hugs*
it is so sad... i always like to think about my friend though, not forget her, even if it brings me to tears, she's still around, if only in our memories. x
Everyone
I think I have an abnormal perception of death because i'm nearly 28 and have all 4 grandparents and most of my great aunts and uncles, basically everyone, and never had a pet as a child for that whole practice grieving thing. When they start dying I imagine it will be horrendous, I'll probably lose my job as you get some stupidly small amount of bereavement leave, and will probably become a massive junkie or something. :o( the idea is too hardcore.
same
I worry about people dying ALL the time. I dunno if it's part of just being a worrier.
Same thing for the job, as well.
I seem to do this alot
Combined with my heightened fear of death, I find the whole idea of friends and family dying quite overwhelming. My cousin died a few years ago in a motorbike accident, (scarily enough he collided with a car that my friend was driving), but I didn't cry at all. Most odd.
From your recent threads, I have came to the conclusion:
You need this:
>hug< and <3
thanks :)
There's is someone I know.
A friend of mine that I went through the hardest period of my life with, if he died then I don't think I could cope.
I literaly didn't wan't to live without him and probably only got through my suicidal depression because of him.
Not that I think about him dying very often but the thought does scare me beyond belief.
*there is
Juliet from Dirty Sexy Money :'(
TV deaths are much more painful than real deaths. You get sad music and everything. When my grandpa died, I got a phone call saying he was dead, then I saw a box which *allegedly* contained him a few days later, and that was it. No emotional triggers there.
Yeah
Me
Only once.
I nursed a young girl who was very very depressed. I was her 'named nurse'. I got a good relationship with her, and would really worry that she would kill herself on the ward. I would often lay in bed after a shift crying at the thought, and thinking 'what could I have done better'.
In the end, she had ECT and became a lot better. Thats really the only time my job has affected me so badly.
are you a mental health nurse?
there are four people whom sophia's statement applies to
Yeah
My job is now well less stressful.
I didnt get that till recently
ever since my dad was declared a walking corpse in March I think about it a lot more and it upsets me... thankfully he made a suprise recovery :) but now my outlook on death is far more intense!
(})
my mum
she's the only adult family i have.
My dad goes on about my gran dying quite a lot.
He's been talking about how he's gonna spend the inheritance for at least ten years now and it really upsets me.
I'm not close with my gran at all, I don't really dislike her, but she doesn't particularly like me.
It's more the thought of how heartless and cold my dad can be, willing his own mother to die, that makes me upset as opposed to her actually dying..