as in, actually obsessing over another person. i worry about my mental health sometimes you see, and what better to do than ask the internet for advice. RIGHT?
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hmmm... if you're worried about your behaviour being 'obsessive'
then chances are. it is.
but
couldn't it be like with other forms of insanity (or whatever you want to call it) that if you're aware of the possibility that you might be obsessive (or whatever it is) then you're probably not? because if you actually were, you'd be in denial and stuff. you know?
ooooh... well..
no.
he he he... i guess so. define your behaviour that you denote as potentially obsessive...?
well basically
just keep coming back to a certain person no matter what they do to you/how they treat you because you think you like them that much, when in reality it's probably more that you want to "win" or something.
i deleted this person off facebook because i kept spying on their profile too much (i would say i had very valid reasons for doing so, but still) after it had been a while i then discovered i could spy on their friends' profiles to see what they'd been up to.
i once kind of sat around waiting for this person outside their house for quite a while, but this was to yell at them for being shit.
i think those are the most significant things
AM I CRAZY?
oh and one more thing
for a while i kept doing what he says in that franz ferdinand song "plan every journey to bump into you" etc. stopped doing that though.
oh do you mean like...
going to gigs because you know he'll be there..? and stuff like that?
i went through a phase of doing that with one boy but i've stopped now. phew.
no
more that i know where he gets the bus back from uni every day, and the approximate time he'll be outside waiting for it, and this is on the way from my house into town, so i used to time my trips into town (and make up excuses for those trips) so i would walk past just when he'd be there. of course he never was there until i'd started hoping he wouldn't be there if i walked past.
oh that requires a little more effort!
mind you. i did once travel from bristol to cardiff to go out one night JUST because i knew he'd be out that night... seriously...
oh wow
this might not make you feel any better, but i don't think i've gone quite that far just yet
'yet' being the keyword of that sentence
well yeah...
i kept telling myself i was going to visit my friends... but i was blatantly just wanting an excuse to see him! lame.
1st 2 paragraphs are fairly harmless
3rd is a bit odd though
yes i know
but i had a really good reason. like, really.
Ok cool
That's alright then.
no.
i do this all the time! well with one particular guy... and my situation sounds identical to your first paragraph.
i'm a subscriber to lastfm, which means i can see who visits my profile.. and i freak out everytime he checks my page... i always check my last fm to see if he's been stalking me. stalking the stalker! oh dear.
did you yell at him outside his house? how did that go?
to reiterate: no i don't think you're crazy per say. but that may because i am also crazy, and we both belong in the looney bin?!
no it was quite funny actually
and i'm having a massive paranoia attack right now in case he or someone he knows who would know about this should happen to read the dis social board, but i very much doubt it. anyway here's what happened: i was sat downstairs (lives in halls) cause i knew he was coming back in not too long. then one of his flatmates walked past and i've no idea how he knew who i was, but he said i could wait upstairs with him. so when the guy i was waiting for came home, i was sitting in his kitchen with his flatmate and he was largely unprepared for it. the look on his face when he saw me was priceless, and easily worth the humiliation. we went to his room for a SERIOUS TALK (god i hate those) and throughout the ordeal he looked like he was about to cry. i left smiling for that reason alone.
but seeing as i'm posting threads like these, well let's say it didn't have any kind of long lasting effect.
so what on earth happened with this boy?!
why the serious talk and reducing him to almost tears? and if you are expressing obsessive behaviour over him, is it out of disdain or do you really really like him?
is he one of those bastard boys you fancy (and have a little history with) but you know he's bad for you and will treat you like crap but you can't help being totally infatuated...?
cos that's not my situation at all.. oh no.. *la la la*
we used to be friends
and i always fancied him but he had a girlfriend and i tried to just ignore it
then he fucked off
then he suddenly reappeared, minus the girlfriend and drunkenly told me liked me
then he started acting like the biggest fucking cock in the history of mankind
and now i've not seen him for a couple of months.
the serious talk was somewhere in between 3rd and 4th lines
oh i see... :(
oh god, he sounds like an absolute jerk.... I always obsess over this kind of guy. the one that treats me like shit, and you can never work out their behaviour...etc...
similar thing happened with me and this guy... i've reached the point where i no longer look at his profile or 'internet stalk' him.. and i ignore him when i see him out.. But he is now internet stalking me.. and trying to talk to me if we bump into each other.. but i am maintaining my distance, because if i don't, i know i'll just fall for him again, the bastard. argh.
see i've been ignoring him now for a bit
even walked STRAIGHT PAST him in the street and completely ignored him, and let me tell you my adrenaline levels were THROUGH THE ROOF (except i was obviously outside when this happened) but i have come to the realisation that part of the ignoring thing is a wish that it will work out like reverse psychology or something, and that he will try to get in touch again.
yeah totally....
oh god we're in the exact same situation it seems! secretly hoping he'll get in touch with me because i've pushed him away... err...
he poked me on facebook a week ago, i totally freaked out, trying to analyze what it must MEAN. it must MEAN SOMETHING. and then it occurred to me it probably meant nothing. sigh.
i literally see the boy in the street, or even if he's 'online' on facebook, i go all nervous and adrenaliney... WHY?!?!
i hate boys that have the abiilty to make me feel this way... :(
^^^^^
this so happens to me
*blushes*
oh god
we (a couple of friends and i) were looking at houses last week and when we went to see the house we've now decided on (just around the corner from milgi!) i disliked it straight away because it would be one or two doors down from this guy. so i really didn't want to live there but all the other 3 wanted that house so i gave in. after thinking about it i then messaged him about it and he replied saying they're not going to be living there anymore for some reason. (i also know for a fact he's single now, but i'm not going to do anything unless he does something first. you know?)
and were you secretly upset when you realised he wouldn't be living there anymore??
even though you were defiant about avoiding that area..? because i would be, ha ha! oh dear... yeah well... definitely make him work for you... If anything happens between you two.. make sure it's on your terms, not his.. and yeah, he def has to make the first move! give yourself the chance to meet other boys though... Us girls with our blinkers on.. always miss a good opportunity with some genuinely amazing guy when we're too busy obsessing over a complete jerk..
do you have to see him on a regular basis? or do your paths only cross if you mean them too?
no i was actually relieved
cause even if i don't want to NEVER see him again, living next door would be far, far too much. i don't regularly see him no, i've only bumped into him without planning it two or three times. basically i know what places to avoid if i don't want to see him and if i do want to see him i know where to go. yeah.
as soon as i wanted to start avoiding my guy..
he started appearing everywhere... so frustrating.. and typical...
he lives in cardiff... which helped in the avoiding him bit.
but then i was going out in bristol, and all of a sudden he's there in bristol, pilled off his face telling me how much he liked me. sigh. obviously i can put that down to chemical influence. i got really angry and stormed off.
eugh, sounds messy :(
boys are messy.
anyhoo i digress! enough about smelly boys.
I do this all the time, but it always goes.
Just think to yourself, have you felt like this before (i'm guessing yes), and did it pass (again i'm guessing yes), well, end of problem.
uncontrolable magnetism to the subject, STALKING...hmm what else...
I take it you didn't ring that chap the other night.
no, sorry, i lost your number.
was that to me?
err. was that to me?
Well I was referring to the 'social leprosy' boy...Oh god I'm infringing in your business, duly apologise!
Hull have just scored another goal!!!
I'm off out to celebrate.
SHIT! Zenit just scored.
that was to you
and no, i didn't. ;)
"infringing in my business" well i'm the one who keeps dragging it up you know.
yeah to be fair
I remember the last time I got a call rediculouslylate call off a drunken girl.
Transcript:
Girl: Elllloooo Daaaaavvvee!!!
Me: Hello, who is this?
Girl: It'sss MeeeeeEeeeee!
Me: Your drunk aren't you? Do you know what time it is?
Girl: Yeah, you coming out or what you bastard! Love youuuuuu...
Me: Well I am in bed like, you know it IS like 2 o'clock...
Girl: Fine then! Fuck off you wanker!
. :(
Drunks are reasonable aren't they?!
i wouldn't do that.
i honestly wouldn't.
what concerns me the most
is this lass is a proper trash-head, she thinks that being unable to remember shit like this constitutes to a good night out. (some may agree) But she always pines for hugs when I see her, I'm not sure what to do I don;t think I could handle a nut of her proportion!
Wouldn't + Wouldn't = Would
:D
hush
no i wouldn't CALL people though, i'd be too afraid they wouldn't pick up.
yeah but if they don't
you can be drunkenly emo in solace rather than blurting out inebriated affection that you might regret doing so in the morning.
I must go out, I was expected like 20 mins ago. Peeps are ringing me!!!
Oh shit. HULL AREE OFFF TOO WEMMMMMBEERRRLLLLEYEEYYYY!!!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!11
are we talking about a boy?!
:)
we might be
I think someone's blocked me on MSN
and I don't know what to do :'(
someone's blocked me
but i've also blocked them.
HIGH FIVE!
Seriously though, how do you deal with it? If you ask them and they haven't blocked you, you're paranoid; if you ask them and they have, you cry yourself to sleep. "Don't ask them" is what I'm currently thinking.
the person i've blocked
who's also blocked me, i met them a few times after the blocking and we both obviously knew about it, but just pretended like it wasn't an issue or hadn't happened.
i think i'm obsessed with someone on DiS
i look at their profile all the time, and the other night had a dream about declaring my love for them
oh my
WHO CAN IT BE? place your bets people
It's obviously me.
I get this all the time.
Seriously, at least 80% of my time is taken up getting restraining orders issued and having people sectioned.
^ i keep looking at someone's profile all the time
and read back comments they made, without even looking at what thread they wrote it in. and when i click on a big thread, i always ctl + f their username to see if they posted in it.
weirdness.
in fact
i also wrote a song about them on the bus tonight.
omg, i'm an actual stalker.
i know who your's is
let's see if you're right...
can't say
too many opportunities for embarrassment
i will say this though: good choice
It's me.
I'm touched, but I don't swing that way.
you will
Someone Still Loves You, Philip Bloomfield
and i found out their real name
and looked them up on myspace and facebook and look at their profiles on their all the time, without befriending them, because i'm too shy and it would shatter the whole distant longing i have for them.
god, i really wish i wasn't writing this.
i'm really glad you are
you've made me feel better
thanks <3
you're welcome
i think :D
<3
i just remembered:
sometimes i favourite some of their better posts
:'(
see, now THIS is really making me feel less crazy :D
also, i wish people stalked me.
(if anyone is stalking me, hi! let's get married.)
^
this please
HI
if'n it all comes out and you find out who it is
i'm gonna be so embarrassed...
someone bookmark this thread for that time, just to make sure
done and dusted
mwahaha
*fear*
i really want to know who it is now
(i'm also quite obsessive over other people's business)
^
tell us...and we promise never evuh evuh to speak of it again
(queezies)
queezies?
nah, it'll feel too weird.
i might make a thread of a blog or something where you can just ask lots of question to deduce who it is, and i have to be totally honest?
but that's a daunting prospect: what if the person i'm obsessed with joins in and someone else guesses that it's them and i have to admit it with them RIGHT THERE!?
i feel sick at the thought...
i think
lets not ask you.
it seems really mean..noone wants you to feel uncomfy :]
look!
you have your very own stalker!
http://www.drownedinsound.com/articles/3299340
i know!
same bed AND EVERYTHING. she's dedicated
:D
aww
tbh, i think we all go though this 'i luv Tom Whyman' stage.
i'm not so coy about that
Tom 'Indie poster boy' Whyman
</3 <---K
Not him
i haven't done this yet.
although knowing my obsessive personality... give it a month or so.
I've done that too :o
Some DiSers marry quality posting with cuteness and you wish you could talk to them more through the boards, but well, you know...
you should just find something to pm them about
freud would say
your superego is too strong.
explain plz
the only freud i've read was the uncanny, and that doesn't quite apply here
welll freud says