girls that expect to be paid for can seriously fuck right off

I'd offer to pay my share if it was a bad date.

If it were good I'd offer to pay next time.

It was a proud moment...

but if he insisted on paying so be it. I'd do the "no it's fine" "no, really I insist" "oh, go on then".

I've previously been in relationships where he paid for NOTHING and was a total scrounge.

though I might hope for a nosh or something at some point. But the last time I went on a date, that shite remake of Starsky and Hutch was on in the cinemas.

just the done thing innit?

if it's gone Jack P Smoothly and she sounds like she's on her way back to your lovenest then pay, if she's a bit of a dick, not putting out and you don't think you'll see her again then at the very least make her pay half, maybe even look for a fire exit.

apparently i have no chance with girls ever because i think its a major turn off if they expect to be paid for.

I wont pay for bother full stop cos its suppose to be mutual attraction of personalities not her attraction to a free meal. I like the idea of cost no associated thou, ie. i pay for first date she pays for 2nd then its up to the person and their income as to what they choose to spend.

ooohhhh, one night in heaven

then let the girl take me to the off licence

then it's back to my beanbag for watching hollyoaks and fingering

so i don't getting thing paid for.

but secretly hope that he'll say 'i'll pay'

they've always quite strongly insisted they go dutch and they hate the idea of men paying for them.

I'd happily pay for them but this has always happened. Of course other dates i paid for everything, just as other dates they insisted they pay for everything. It's all good.

it's nice if the guy pays, but the girl should still offer to pay half. After that, you should go dutch unless someone is treating someone for a reason.

i like paying for people cause I know in the near future I'm going to be broke an dhope that early generousity will be rewarded with sympathy food.

it basically adds up to women expecting men to pay for sex

they are not worthy of respect.

and not be pissed off if I had to pay my share. However...depends how the date was arranged. If someone says "can I take you out for dinner?" then of course i would still offer but probably expect them to pay. Is that reasonable?

as it's always annoying when people don't just let you pay.
I would then ensure I paid for the second date though.

But splitting also fine and maybe preferable. It is nice to have someone buy you dinner though, just as I'm sure it's nice for a boy if a girl buys them dinner. All equally as acceptable.

i mean, otherwise it's really really weird and might, to be cynical, set up some expectations

afterwards, i don't mind paying for them occasionally and vice versa

as people seem to assume everything will be totalled up nicely at the end of the evening

i don't think i've ever been on one :(

this applies to friends too, not just dates.

50% of the time though, i don't have it, so share (date) or get free meal (friends). the system seems to balance out overall.

since you're potentially talking £50-80 for a date though, girls who expect to be paid for are a bit cheeky if it's obvious you're not the richest man in town. it's nice if there's an offer to contribute, even if i insist on turning it down.

the man pays, unless they ask you, if they offered i'd say thanks but i wouldn't let them pay for it.

One step closer to being a kept man.

I always pay my share.