If you like someone why do you not want to sleep with them?

Maybe because sleeping with someone is probably the most intimate thing it is possible to do with another human being and so shouldn't be treated lightly?

you were right to not go home with him!
You should be proud of yourself!

If you didn't want to sleep with him due to your feelings then that's cool.

But if you thought he'd think you were a slag that's a bit different. Any guy who was worth being with wouldn't think that, in which case your reasoning for not sleeping with him on a first date was 'womany'.

I think you should have sex early on in a relationship. Otherwise you might find out it's a bit rubbish or you're not compatible after having gone out for weeks and then you've got to dump them and it's really hard...

And i'm NOT hoisting no standpoints onto anyone. I was responding to a fucking question you idiot!

just as I was writing that 'A Means to An End' by Joy Division started up on my I-pod (have it on shuffle) funny!

If it was a Friday night it would be a different story I bet!

to get pushed round the carpet on the first date of course, but the bloke might have found that attractive

and women aren't? Actually I think most blokes are total pricks when it comes to women so I have more respect for women's 'weirdness' than some self obsessed mummy's boy

girls are wierder, as they generally read a lot more into things like this, similar to what you're doing here ;)
whereas he probably just shrugged it off as another missed chance type thing.

have you written 'men are so weird' in this thread.

It's so fashionable to think men are 'shit', especially if you're the Editor of some women's monthly glossy magazine. Pretty much where everyone seems to build their personalities these days, through gossip and fashion magazines.

Men aren't 'weird' or 'shit' or whatthefuckever, they're just men. Just like women are just women and surprisingly good at confusing and then hurting you when they want to and even sometimes when they don't intend to.

All of my best friends used to be girls and it's made me slightly more worldly-aware (and quite possibly, effeminate) and reluctant to criticise either gender in these sweeping fashions. I'm safe in the knowledge that for every confusing (and confused) girl, there's another who is significantly more compatible.

He he

and stayed that way for a lovely six months. It was nice meeting someone who was completely honest from day one about how they felt about me...

Game playing and power struggles are just awful, aren't they??

if it's the sort of encounter where you 'go home with' someone, doesn't that mean you've just met them and are highly unlikely to go out with them afterwards anyway?

so if you fancy a shag, then go, and if you don't, then don't. simple as.

I reckon you're much more likely to find a successful relationship with a friend or a friend of a friend than a '''random''' pull.

I am being hideously naive due to my lack of experience (see 'pulling' thread) and also I might have misread the situation that you were describing. but that is what I think.